Let's make it concrete: this childish mode of pseudo faith causes us to wonder where God is when we suffer. To question this is to ignore what novelist Susan Howatch captured so well in her novel Absolute Truths, when her character, Martin Darrow, a man who has recently gone through a self-induced personal catastrophe, tells Bishop Charles Ashworth how good it is, when going through a difficult time, to have a frank conversation with "someone who's gone through hell lately." This leads Martin to comment on God and suffering: "It makes all the difference to know there's someone else screaming alongside you - and that's the point of the Incarnation, I can see that so clearly now. God came into the world and screamed alongside us. Interesting idea, that."
Somehow the idea that it is precisely through our suffering that we are perfected is one that even many Christians now try to reject. To reject this is to deny Christ. I know this will sound trite and judgmental to many. It will not to those who have experienced Christ in their own suffering. It is a grace to be numbered among them.