Three of those had to do with dietary laws (i.e., what one could not eat). Since one of those three is textually suspicious and the other two were dealt with later by Paul, I zeroed in on the Greek word that the NAB(RE) translates into English with the phrase "unlawful marriage." I noted that this word (i.e., porneia) is probably better translated in that context by the phrase (used in other credible translations) "sexual immorality."
I then provided a short list of some of the things the prohbition on sexual immorality included while acknowledging this word can refer to any one of those things, some of those things, or all of them together. Unlike the dietary restritions, what constituted sexual immorality remained consistent in the New Testament and beyond.
In accordance with the matters addressed in Acts 15, ethical concerns predominated in the writings of the Early Church Fathers. At the beginning of the first chapter of his book Reading the Early Church Fathers: From the Didache to Nicea, James L. Papandera notes
Early Christian catechesis focused more on ethical concerns than on theology, and from the very beginning it was extremely important to draw the lines of distinction between Christian morals and the morals of the rest of Greco-Roman culture and society (page 7)This surely includes sexual morals.
Since posting that I have run across two things that I think are relevant. One of them was a post made to the Facebook account of a group called "Catholic Dress Code." This is a rather conservative group run by Catholic women encouraging women to dress modestly. While I certainly have my viewpoint, I don't wade into discussions of what someone should wear or not wear.
Because of its length, I am not going to post the whole thing. You can follow the link I provided above to read it all. But I am going to repost several paragraphs that I think are the most salient:
No one told me the truth about sex before I had a lot of sex... (reposted)...One woman wrote a comment that I "Liked" because it echoed my own reaction to this: "This is the first post here i totally agree with. Dont be prudish. Read it again. Emphasis on the last paragraph [what is highlighted]. Then read it again."
They say sex is just physical. But I’ve felt the aftershocks of a single night echo through my nervous system for months. I’ve stayed too long with men who weren’t good for me...not because I didn’t know better, but because my cells already believed we were one thing. Because oxytocin doesn’t understand red flags. Because dopamine will make a prison feel like paradise. Because orgasm isn’t just a climax, it’s a binding contract written in chemistry and signed in vulnerability....
What they don’t tell you is this: sex rewires you. It maps your memory, it softens your instincts, it makes you stay when every part of your logic is screaming “run.” And even if you tell yourself it doesn’t matter, even if you say you’re detached, your body still remembers. There is no such thing as casual when your nervous system is that involved.
And we don’t need to shame the wild. I’m not here to be shaming choices. I believe in sacred chaos. In lust that tastes like lightning. But let’s stop pretending that we can do it like animals and not feel like ghosts when it’s over.
Because sex, real sex in your soul felt sex, isn’t just about climax. It’s about collapse. It’s about letting someone inside your orbit so deeply that your whole inner world tilts. And that? That should be earned. That should be sacred.
So no, sex was never just a handshake. It’s a soul exchange. And if we remembered that, maybe we’d stop giving our bodies to people who haven’t even earned our eye contact [emboldening and italicization mine, not in the original]
A second thing I read on Monday. It is from Zena Hitz's book A Philosopher Looks at Religious Life. "Celibacy" is a section of chapter four: "The Family of Humanity."
I have been severe on sexuality, not out of prudishness, but to counter the overwhelming rhetoric on the other side. We act as if life without sex is impossible, and entertain the thought, even if less commonly nowadays than in my youth, that sex with strangers is harmless. Both cannot be true. Either sex reaches down to the core of our being, and so ought to be treated with reverence and caution, as something which might bear life's meaning for us, or it is harmless, like chewing bubble gum, and can be given up without a second thought. The fact is that the depth and significance of our sexual desires make celibacy very difficult, but it is by no means impossible (page 121)In short, sex is not love and love is not sex. I could easily move from this to one of the progressive aspects of Pope Saint Paul VI's Humanae vitae (there is more than one!): the unitive purpose (see section 12). By the way, the Holy See's website has a makeover!
Both of these quotes, which are negative in tone (i.e., why not to), are only a starting point. One might add Saint Paul's observation that when you have sex with someone you become one in body with that person (1 Corthians 6:15-20). Of course, the apostle is writing to Christians in ancient Corinth, a port city rife withe prostitution both sacred (pagan) and profane.
In this instance, surely Paul's point transcends the context. And so, something written above becomes an affirmation: "...because my cells already believed we were one thing. Because oxytocin doesn’t understand red flags. Because dopamine will make a prison feel like paradise." Beyond that, as Irish writer John Waters noted, there has to be something after no. But no has its reasons.
Why not Howard Jones' "What Is Love?" as a Friday traditio? While we're at it, let's go with the Big, Beautiful version.